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What is Better

Two weeks ago was the night of worship at my house I’d been planning and preparing for the entire summer. The theme: Fiesta. I spent numerous midnight hours scrolling Pinterest for the perfect inspiration for this sweet celebration. I asked friends to help with food and kept the theme of bright, fun colors consistent with all things. I kept clicking the purchase button on Amazon determined to make this night special even if it meant going over budget. Many hours went in to having everything as ready as it could be as we had never done anything like this before. I wanted it to be perfect in every way. Special.

The day of I rushed to get everything in its place, ready for my guests. It felt like time was running out. With experience in party planning and many niece and nephew birthday parties, you reach a point where some things don’t matter-if you can get it, have it then great and if not-whatever!

My childhood bff came over early and helped get things set out. As my friends started arriving each one of them asked what they could do. I’m not the best at asking for help and well, I have a tendency to just do things myself. Besides, I wanted them to come and just enjoy without having to do anything.

After greeting my people through the madness of what still needed to get done and the anticipation of what was even going to take place, it was time to start-time to eat! After eating and communing together (which I never did eat until it was over) it was time for worship, which is what the night was all about anyway. Worship. Praise. His Presence. Declaration and taking territory of what was being promised.

It was a beautiful time in the presence of God with some amazing friends and family! It was everything I was hoping it would be! Freedom. Creativity. Purity. Peace. Rest. Joy. So much more!

Here’s the thing-when it was over, I realized:

• I left the bag of balloons I insisted my niece help me blow up in the bedroom-just dropped them randomly and never went back to them.

• The chopped tomatoes and two salsas I asked my sister to make didn’t make it to the table.

• Oh, those precious cactus cupcake toppers for the churro cupcakes a friend made-forgotten

• The fiesta fringe for photo taking never got put up

• I noticed I threw my dirty clothes in a mad dash to get dressed and ready in five minutes in my bedroom where I told a friend she could put her baby bag! Talk about embarrassing!

I honestly had a moment where I felt bummed that these things didn’t happen, went unused or could have been better. And then I felt the Lord impress upon my heart……”those things didn’t matter.”

At the beginning of that week, my spiritual momma prayed over me and one thing that was spoken was just a casting off of the anxiousness of good-which I interpreted that as, only what is necessary-only what is needed even if it’s good, let it just be God. My desire for excellence and perfection needed to submit to what God already ordained for that night. And if so, it would be easy.

Afterwards as I finally got a taste of sister’s sopapilla cheesecake bar dessert and let myself rest, I thought about all these things and was led to the story of Mary and Martha.


Now while they were on their way, Jesus entered a village [called Bethany], and a woman named Martha welcomed Him into her home. 39 She had a sister named Mary, who seated herself at the Lord’s feet and was continually listening to His teaching. 40 But Martha was very busy and distracted with all of her serving responsibilities; and she approached Him and said, “Lord, is it of no concern to You that my sister has left me to do the serving alone? Tell her to help me and do her part.” 41 But the Lord replied to her, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and bothered and anxious about so many things; 42 but only one thing is necessary, for Mary has chosen the good part [that which is to her advantage], which will not be taken away from her.” Luke 10:38-42 🤍


We make it so hard to sit at the feet of Jesus when our schedules are full, our to do list is overwhelming and our idea of what we need and who we even need to be outweighs the grace available for us to just come as we are and bask in the presence of the Lord. It’s easy though to just come and sit with Him.

I was thankful that the list I would soon sit and ponder on didn’t rear it’s ugly head during the evening and that when it was time to worship, my heart took the posture of Mary’s sweet expression of humility and love to her Savior.

Drop the to do list. Stop the striving. Receive Grace. Choose the good part-the better thing. He just wants you. All other things can wait. Some things just don’t matter. But life spent knowing Him, truly knowing Him intimately-that matters. 🤍 Our need for perfection and excellence shouldn’t overshadow our need for our Bridegroom King.

“The King is in the field” 🌾👑 Meet him there!

“but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” Luke 10:42 NIV

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